At my big age it’s about a lot of that potential already being realised. Age and experience should have moved that part of the journey along, yet I embrace the late bloomer and him still having unexplored ambitions (because that’s also me!)
Something I value now, that I didn’t before (and so didn’t get) was someone who made me feel safe and secure. Not what 20 or even 30 year old me was prioritising!
I don’t think most people really know what they’re prioritising for themselves in their twenties. We kind of just hope the person we’re with helps us grow into something, but often, they don’t know how to either. As we get older, we do raises out expectation, but you’d be surprised—some people just take longer. That doesn’t mean they’re not trying. Also, like you said, potential isn’t finite, we’re all still moving through it. You are right doh, being with the right person makes you feel safe enough to develop your potential and grow into it.
I appreciate this. I feel like I didn’t date my ex long enough to ascertain his true potential. Now I look for men who are teachable, who are focused on deepening their growth, and self-awareness. Generally, if people have therapists and are pursuing their spiritual center, they have good potential. I didn’t even know to ask this the first time around. I don’t think we ever arrive. We are always potentiality in motion.
Defo! Someone learning how to be better atleast means they are ready for the journey of progression. Although some of us are changing, you will be surprised how many people prefer to remain stagnant and fixed in their ways (very scary).
Very great insigt. Thank you.
At my big age it’s about a lot of that potential already being realised. Age and experience should have moved that part of the journey along, yet I embrace the late bloomer and him still having unexplored ambitions (because that’s also me!)
Something I value now, that I didn’t before (and so didn’t get) was someone who made me feel safe and secure. Not what 20 or even 30 year old me was prioritising!
I don’t think most people really know what they’re prioritising for themselves in their twenties. We kind of just hope the person we’re with helps us grow into something, but often, they don’t know how to either. As we get older, we do raises out expectation, but you’d be surprised—some people just take longer. That doesn’t mean they’re not trying. Also, like you said, potential isn’t finite, we’re all still moving through it. You are right doh, being with the right person makes you feel safe enough to develop your potential and grow into it.
I appreciate this. I feel like I didn’t date my ex long enough to ascertain his true potential. Now I look for men who are teachable, who are focused on deepening their growth, and self-awareness. Generally, if people have therapists and are pursuing their spiritual center, they have good potential. I didn’t even know to ask this the first time around. I don’t think we ever arrive. We are always potentiality in motion.
Defo! Someone learning how to be better atleast means they are ready for the journey of progression. Although some of us are changing, you will be surprised how many people prefer to remain stagnant and fixed in their ways (very scary).