When we moved house, I didn’t want to. The new house was bigger, nicer (with even space for me to have a personal office). It ticked all the right boxes, but I was comfortable in our small apartment. It took me a long time to agree that my wife and I made the decision together, instead of blaming her for making me move away from all my conveniences. Sacrifices is something you expect in a marriage, but it is worse when we blame our spouse for it.
For me I would say the sacrifices I have made I have been happy to make even though sometimes gratitude isn't reciprocated I always feel perhaps he will see and know in the future and it stops me for feeling resentful. The only time I have felt resentful is when taking on the bulk of the childcare and I dont think it is understood how hard it is by the other person!
Such a beautiful perspective. I agree about the children, it’s so demanding, like not just the physical side, but the mental aspect of thinking for multiple people (especially little ones) all at once. It’s not until you do it yourself (for an extended period) of time do you understand what parents are really going through. Give it time because one day your family will realise that all your efforts are the catalyst for their success.
For me I would say the sacrifices I have made I have been happy to make even though sometimes gratitude isn't reciprocated I always feel perhaps he will see and know in the future and it stops me for feeling resentful. The only time I have felt resentful is when taking on the bulk of the childcare and I dont think it is understood how hard it is by the other person!
Such a beautiful perspective. I agree about the children, it’s so demanding, like not just the physical side, but the mental aspect of thinking for multiple people (especially little ones) all at once. It’s not until you do it yourself (for an extended period) of time do you understand what parents are really going through. Give it time because one day your family will realise that all your efforts are the catalyst for their success.